1. **Curiosity:** Determine your Question Fraction. 1. Circle all the question marks in the right-hand column. 2. Count the number of questions that were genuine (correspond to your inner column). 3. Record as a fraction: genuine questions/all questions. For maximum curiosity, you want to see lots of questions (a large denominator), with most of them genuine (a large numerator). 2. **Transparency:** Find unexpressed ideas. 1. Underline thoughts and feelings in the left-hand column that do not appear in the right-hand column. 2. You have been very transparent if you have expressed most of your thinking and your emotions (that is, if you have few underlined sentences in the left-hand column). 4. **Patterns:** (Advanced) Find triggers, tells, and twitches. 1. Circle and label triggers that cause you to react strongly, tells that signal a lack of transparency or curiosity, and twitches that represent default responses. 2. You probably can’t avoid the automatic responses you identify here, but you can learn to detect them as they happen. You are doing well if you note your patterns in real time, either in your left-hand column or in your dialogue. 5. ** Empathy:** (Personal Addition) Check if you are addressing the concerns of your conversation partners 1. When you hear a concern from your conversation partner, are you testing that you made the right inference about the person's emotional state by using at least the first two of the [The Five Secrets of Effective Communication](The%20Five%20Secrets%20of%20Effective%20Communication.md) 6. **Skills:** (Expert) Test for specific skills you are trying to improve (choose from the list of skills below, and only work on one at a time). 1. _TDD for People:_ Label your statements and questions in either column with the rung from the Ladder of Inference to which they belong. You’re doing well if you’re establishing a shared understanding of the lower rungs of the Ladder before debating items near the top the Ladder. 2. _Coherence Busting:_ Count the unsupported conclusions in the left-hand column. Aim for a low score—ideally, none! 3. _Joint Design:_ Award a point for each of the five elements of Joint Design that you observe: inclusivity, asking genuine questions, inviting opposing views, time-boxing, and using a decision-making rule. Aim for five out of five. 4. _Agreeing on Meaning:_ Circle the important words in both columns, then count the number that have confirmed, shared meanings. Create a fraction: confirmed/important. Ideally, this fraction will be equal to 1 (the numerator equals the denominator). 5. _Briefing and Back Briefing:_ As appropriate, score yourself out of three: for a briefing, look for outcome, constraints, and freedoms; for a back briefing, watch for action, reasoning, and confirmation. Your goal should be a score of 3/3. From: The Conversational Dojo in [Agile Conversations by Squirrel and Fredrick](https://agileconversations.com/agile-conversation-book/)